Imago marriage and relationship therapy was synthesized and created by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., who co-authored with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., the NY Times best sellers :
Imago therapy integrates and synthesizes the insights of the major western psychological systems, behavioral science and spiritual disciplines into a uniquely comprehensive and systematic theory of primary love relationships.
The "Imago" is a composite image in the unconscious of the significant character traits and behaviors of childhood primary caretakers. By pairing us with an "Imago match" -- an individual who is like our caretakers in emotionally significant ways -- our unconscious drives us to re-create our childhood psychological dynamics in an attempt to heal the central wounds we carry. The process of Imago Relationship Therapy is aimed at using this context to transform relationships into a therapeutic encounter and fuel for each partner's psychological and spiritual self-completion.
Imago Relationship Therapy utilizes a variety of clinical processes to teach couples, and singles desiring an intimate union, to identify their defenses against intimacy and to understand the unconscious forces that influence partner selection and contribute to difficulty in relationships. Goals of the therapy include: identifying the frustrations rooted in primitive and illusory ideation of one's love partner; recognizing the failure of archaic behavior to gratify needs and achieve self-completion; and perceiving one's partner realistically without the encumbrance of one's own unconscious projections.
Other aspects of the Imago process involve learning new skills and changing hurtful behavior, in the course of which partners consciously aim to meet one another's needs and thereby restore the lost and denied parts of
themselves. A core skill set is a three-part dialogue that breaks couples out of defensive and symbiotic relating and promotes differentiation and compassion for the other. Therapy is ultimately made obsolete as each partner becomes a skilled advocate and "container" for the other's growth process. The Imago process, when consistently applied in any relationship, has the potential to be a transformative journey toward mutual healing and maturation.
We are Certified Imago Relationship Therapists, specializing in Couples and Marriage Counseling. Our services include Imago Therapy for Individuals, Couples, Weekend Workshops, and Clinical Consultation and Clinical Training for Therapists. Imago Therapy is based on the best selling book, "Getting the Love You Want," by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Read how Imago Relationship Therapy stands apart from traditional models of Couples Counseling. Our San Ramon office is located in the East Bay, and we also serve clients from the Greater San Francisco Bay Area.
Notice To Clients
Imago Couples Counseling San Ramon is a fictitious business name used solely for the purpose of advertising. Nothing in the use of the name “Imago Couples Counseling San Ramon” means or implies that the nature of our business is a legal partnership or corporation. Each therapist on this website is a sole proprietor. Individual therapists do not hold any legal or financial relationships with each other as partners, joint ventures or joint practitioners.